A Letter to Fathers of Daughters

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Dear Fathers with daughters, 

You are blessed; someone, somewhere thought you were worthy of this role. It’s not a role to be taken lightly. And, you know that. You know it well. 

The moment you laid eyes on your beautiful baby girl, you cried. You cried because you felt a kind of vulnerability you’ve never felt before, a kind of vulnerability you did not understand. Your days, your nights, your entire being would be forever changed. Every thought, every action, and every decision will be made with your little girl in mind. She is your world. 

Before she came along, you had never loved. Not like this. This love makes you invincible and helpless at the same time. When a beautiful little girl with rosy cheeks and shining eyes looks up at you and beams “Daddy!” the minute you walk through your door, you are convinced you are the luckiest man alive. You are. When she wraps her little arms around your neck, you are her knight in shining armor. And, if you play your cards right, you always will be. 

You see, the father-daughter bond is a truly remarkable one. Your relationship with your daughter will forever mould her future relationships. Researchers have found this to be true time and again. Kevin Leman, psychologist and researcher, has found that fathers are the key to their daughters’ future. In his book, What a Difference Daddy Makes, he notes that, ‘Evidence shows that a father’s relationship with his daughter is one of the key determinants in a woman’s ability to enjoy a successful life and marriage.’ 

Tread carefully, dear fathers. You are not just raising a girl, you are shaping a woman. Be mindful of your words, someone is listening. Be conscious of your actions, someone is watching. Be the kind of man you would want your daughter to bring home. Be the kind of man you would want your son to grow to be. 

Love her mother. One day she’ll go searching for a partner. She’ll look far and wide for a man of your creed-the only man she’s trusted and loved. The way you treat her mother is the way she will expect to be treated. So, treat her mother well. Respect her. Love her. Be kind and be tender. You are setting the bar for the men who will be lucky enough to be in your daughter’s life. Don’t set the bar too low. 

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